You know that you’re ready to date after divorce when you’re available to date. Discovering the validity of your former marriage is not meant to be an insult or a blame shifting activity to you and your family instead, you may have taken the marriage vows very seriously but the experience an invalid marriage. A typical annulment process takes about a year and a half depending on how quickly response of the process and it therefore does not take many years as many people perceive. It is very unhealthy to bring resentment into a new relationship both for you and the person whom you dating. It is therefore vital that before you consider to start dating after heartbreak that you seriously consider a process of reconciliation with your former spouse.
If you haven’t healed to the extent of restoring your self-worth then this is a sure sign that you should consider another time to date again. There are many resources available to help you go through the journey of self-worth and identity of which you can go through with your trusted friend, spiritual director or counsellor to help you restore love for yourself. You can easily notice that you’re ready to date when you’re no longer angry about your divorce. Being real with yourself and accepting that you have not fully healed from the past can help you to embrace the wounds and become vulnerable enough to open them up to someone who might help you to get over them so that you may have a fresh start.
You know that you are ready to date again after divorce when you don’t constantly relive the past. Everyone’s divorce story will always be different and unique but regardless of the story, you’re the one who decides when you’re going to move on from there. If you’re able to look back to your former relationship with the level consciousness of acknowledging your own mistakes but not letting them define your future, then you should know that you’re ready to pursue a good relationship after divorce. When you come to a place when you don’t need a relationship to be happy is a sure sign that you’re ready to start dating. It is very easy to start dating but overtime used to seek emotional security from your new relationship.